So how long does it really take to develop true love? Can it really be at first sight? Or does it takes weeks, and months, possibly years to develop a love that is tried and true, that will last longer than a lil wayne song? It's so hard to tell these days. Nearly every man I meet thinks its appropriate to tell me how special I am, how he can't stop thinking about me, or -- my personal favorite --how he might be falling in love with me. These comments usually ensue until one of two very important things happen: (a) he gets the drawers or (b) he doesn't get the drawers.
Yes, this may seem obvious, but Gen Y men (defined as those born between 1982 - 1997) seem fond of creating the appearance that a relationship may be developing at the speed of lightening only to have it come to a crashing halt after he "taps" that. This is especially the case when a sexual encounter takes place very early in the relationship such as before you know his last name, before you know what he does for a living or before you are even sure that he does not have children (another blog on men with kids to follow). Ladies, be warned, men can flee for the hills even after you have held out for a bit because, to put it bluntly, he just wanted smash. This facade could carry on for days or weeks and he will shower you with the attention and affection that you have craved your whole life (please note: if this neediness stems from severe daddy issues, please seek professional help). He will tell you he loves the way you look in your dress, that he hasn't met someone as special as you in a long time or that he could see himself being with you (although he will quickly note that this does not make you his girlfriend). And so, in a short-lived and short-loved gesture of romance, you go with the flow and..... BOOM! Done. The mystery and excite are over as soon as he gets you in your birthday suit because, like primitive hunters, it is all about the chase and he has attained his goal. And you never hear from him again.
But, don't be fooled. The opposite can also hold true.
A man that makes a sexual advance does not take rejection lightly. Despite all the bravado and machisimo that even the most manly of all men exudes (particularly if you are with a big dude), they are all shy little boys inside. It takes gust and major you-know-whats to proposition a woman for sex so when you go for it, and she says no, you want to move on quickly so as to shake off the wounded ego. Men find women who do not sleep with them to be respectable and elusive, but if they are only after sex, they are not into making the time investment needed to get these women horizontal, and so they move on to an easier target. Unfortunately, these women hold out because they hope that the man is being sincere in his compliments and flattery, and that by holding out, they may strengthen a bond that has the potential to turn into a lasting relationship. WRONG! You never get to that point because he was never really interested in anything other than your papaya, and so you should be happy that at least he never got a sneak peek at your grandma drawers. And just like the woman in scenario one, you never hear from him again. So in short: damned if you do, damned if you don't.
So does true love really exist? Yes.... but unfortunately, you have to kiss a few toads before you get to prince charming. Just pray you don't catch warts in the process.
Hilarious!
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