10 reasons (which I ignored) that screamed he is just not into me

Hey Ladies. Sorry I have been missing, but I was traveling a bit last week, and then on Monday, I got sucker punched, bad. I don’t want to hear of Talib Kweli, beef patties, jerk chicken, or Magnum wine for a very long time. My dad said no Jamaicans and I didn’t listen. I never listen. I don’t want to see caramel skin, bright eyes or nice teeth. This whole experience confirms that I need to get my eyes checked because I don’t see the obvious, and I need anti hallucinogens. Today I'm going to see this for what it was in hopes to never find myself in such a predicament again. The older I get, the more I hate to waste even a moment on someone who isn't worth. Doesn't matter if he was my man or not. You feel like your value is barely outpacing the dollar. I hope none of you ever find yourselves stuck in a Denver airport for 4 hrs because of inclement weather, only to be "dumped" over text message, and sob the whole 2000 miles home. Publicly. At least you had the window seat. This blog will see happier days, seems like I have been a bit of a debbie downer lately. If my sadness persists, I may purchase a Louis Vuitton purse.

That being said, here are the top 10 reasons that I should have cut it from the beginning.
1- When he stopped taking you to out after the third date, and all subsequent interactions consisted of watching tv on the couch, with sporadic trips to motels, not only was he not that into you, he straight up didn't like you enough to spend a dollar that didn't have an immediate return. He already had the milk, the cow, the chicken and the egg.
2- When you had your first "miscommunication," the cause of which you can't even remember, he had the balls to say "explanations are Monday through Friday, 9 to 5" after which all you heard was a dial tone, you knew he was not that into you.
3-After 3 wks post-hang up, he still never called and you had to dig through old phone bills to find it because you deleted him, and you finally gave in and sent a text and all he could say was "been lookin for you luv" like he didn't have a working number, you should have known he was not into you.
4-When you mentioned that you were frustrated with the situation because you wanted something more serious and it seemed like all he wanted was sex, to which he responded that the only reason he wouldn't date you seriously was because you didn't seem to want a kid anytime soon, to which you responded by practically offering to lose your birth control and buy a copy of "What to expect when your Expecting," he was lying to you and you believed ever word. Don't be so desperate.
5- When he would selectively answer your text messages, often pretending that he didn't get them until the next day, you knew this wasn't the case because blackberry messenger clearly indicates when your messages had be read, he just wasn’t thinking of you.
6- When you offered to cook curry chicken in heels, to which he replied he was becoming a vegan, there was not much left to do. He wasn’t that into you.
7- When you never met a single friend because you don't interact during the light of day or in public settings, you were letting him use you. You should have walked away after the vegan comment.
8- When you kept telling him how much you were feeling him, and all you heard were crickets, he was definitely not into you.
9-When you'd check to your phone and never have any messages from him, and you would call Verizon to make sure it wasn't broken and the customer service rep said “no bitch it aint broke, he don't want you,” you should have deleted him and saved your dignity.
10-When the baby story wasn't enough to get rid of you and he decided to tell you after you were seeing him for 7 months that he had been engaged before he met you and still has feelings for her, you meant nothing to him.


So the lesson learned: You can't expect him to give you the world when he wouldn't even give you a tic-tac. I won't do this again. I'm not the casual relationship type. I need it well defined and clear with all terms and conditions negotiated upfront. I'm not giving up, I tend to do that and go into months of hibernation (approx 4 months per year of dating is my average so for this occasion, I would normally estimate 2.3 months). No time outs this time. No need to attach more importance to the fiasco than I already have. I was just a rebound. Like a half-time show--a lot of skin and a bunch of fireworks, but over in a half hour. If you left to get a beer and piss, you missed me.

So why can't I get him off my mind? 10 ways to get over it tomorrow.